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Senior Tips for Super Agers & Those Who Care for Them

7 Tips for Rediscovering Lost Relationships

Today is National Day of Unplugging. This means we should not be reading this and unplugging from all technology. 

This celebration comes every first Friday of March. 

It was created to spend time away from our screens for 24 hours and instead spend time in nature, connecting with loved ones, and relaxing. It lets people spend focused time with friends and family, or just by themselves, to remember what matters in life.

So what matters most in our lives?

To say we live in a connected, high-speed world is a bit of an understatement. Sometimes, we can miss what’s happening right in front of us while we are hyper-connected to friends, family, and strangers on social media.

How You Should Celebrate: Create a special day for yourself, where you purposefully put away your phone and computer. Let your children and those you care ofr know you will not be on texts or email. 

You could read a book, bake, pick up a creative hobby, or take a hot bath or nap. But this isn't what most of us want.

What is it seniors and their family members wish they would do more of?

  • Pursue a dream today and not be someone you are truly not. 

  • Spend time with the family and less on the phones doing work. 

  • Make more time for friends. Keep those “years-ago” relationships going. 

  • Hug your family more and tell them you love them. Less time frowning.

  • Speak more about how you really feel and less time hibernating into the phone or computer with resentment. 

  • Resolve those conflicts today. Say you're sorry and feel better. 

Call your family member or friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. Children, grandparents, a spouse who’s out of town. As the saying goes, reach out and touch someone by voice, not text!

Be who you really are.

What does this mean for you? Don’t pretend to be someone else. As we hug our cell phones and computers we tend to become another person. Face to face, we show our true selves. Be yourself. Speak up. Do what you want. You’ll feel so much better.

To find out how you cankeep your goals and become a thriving senior or one who cares for the thriving senior, see our Senior Freedom Club

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I love the example of one of our members. She was visiting friends. Her daily routine involved exercising every day for one hour. She explained this to her hosts. They understood and didn’t ask to participate or hesitate. They graciously respected her request and arranged their time together around what was truly important to her.

So, yes, you can enjoy friends and still keep your goals in line with what you truly want. 

Make a decision today to be happy.  Find the things around you that bring true happiness to you and grab onto them today. 

So what are some activities we can do when we unplug?

  • Outdoor Adventures: Spend the day outdoors enjoying nature. Go for a hike, have a picnic in the park, or simply take a leisurely stroll through your neighborhood. Being in nature can be incredibly refreshing and rejuvenating. Are the songbirds singing?

  • Arts and Crafts: Tap into your creative side by engaging in arts and crafts activities. Try your hand at painting, drawing, knitting, coloring, or any other craft that interests you. You could even involve your family or friends in a collaborative art project. What is it you want to make today?

  • Cooking or Baking: Spend some quality time in the kitchen preparing a delicious meal or baking treats from scratch. Cooking can be a therapeutic activity that allows you to focus on the present moment and enjoy the process of creating something delicious. Plop a grandchild on the counter to watch and lick the spoons!

  • Board Games or Puzzles: Gather your family or friends for a day of old-fashioned board games or puzzles. Whether it's a classic game like Charades or a challenging Twister, these activities can be a fun way to bond, enjoy each other's company and get some exercise in. 

  • Volunteer Work: This might require some planning. Dedicate some time to giving back to your community by volunteering for a local charity or organization. Whether it's helping out at a soup kitchen, participating in a beach cleanup, walking for a cause, or volunteering at a local shelter, contributing to a cause you care about can be incredibly rewarding.

  • Quality Time with Loved Ones: Use this day to reconnect with family and friends without the distractions of technology. Have meaningful conversations, play games together, or simply enjoy each other's company while walking at the beach, mall, or gym. 

Notice all of these involve spending time with others. Not by ourselves watching the internet. 

Remember, the goal of the National Day of Unplugging is to disconnect from screens and technology to focus on meaningful people, inner self, activities, and connections. 

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Senior Tips for Super Agers & Those Who Care for Them

My Struggle with Ageism: How Unspoken Rules Diminish Opportunities for Us

Ageism is like the nagging guest at the party that just won't leave – it's everywhere, from workplaces to healthcare systems to everyday interactions. This form of discrimination stems from societal attitudes and stereotypes that suggest older individuals are less capable, less valuable, or less deserving of respect compared to their younger counterparts. It's like society has this unwritten rule that once you hit a certain age, you're somehow less relevant or less worthy of opportunities.

Work Place

Take the workplace, for instance. Ageism rears its ugly head here in various ways. Older employees may find themselves passed over for promotions or job opportunities in favor of younger colleagues, simply because of assumptions about their ability to keep up with technology or adapt to changing work environments. This can lead to feelings of frustration, demoralization, and financial insecurity among older workers who still have plenty to contribute but are unfairly sidelined due to their age.

Real-life example: Sarah, a seasoned professional in her 60s, applies for a managerial position in her company. Despite her extensive experience and proven track record, the hiring manager expresses concern about her ability to adapt to new technologies and work alongside younger team members. Sarah is ultimately passed over for the position in favor of a younger candidate, leaving her feeling undervalued and overlooked.

Medical Care

Ageism also rears its head in healthcare settings, where older adults may encounter bias and discrimination that affects the quality of care they receive. Healthcare providers may dismiss or downplay older patients' symptoms, attributing them to age-related issues rather than conducting thorough evaluations or considering underlying health conditions. This can result in underdiagnosis or undertreatment of serious health issues, putting older adults at risk of worsening health outcomes.

Real-life example: James, a retired 70-year-old, visits his doctor complaining of persistent joint pain. The doctor dismisses his concerns, attributing the pain to "normal aging" and suggesting over-the-counter pain relievers as a solution. Months later, James was diagnosed with a degenerative joint condition that could have been detected and treated earlier with proper medical attention. Sadly, this stopped James from skiing,his favorite sport. 


Ageism also impacts social interactions and perceptions of aging. Older adults may face marginalization or exclusion in social settings, leading to feelings of loneliness and isolation. Society often perpetuates stereotypes about aging, portraying older individuals as frail, dependent, or technologically inept. These stereotypes not only influence how older people are treated by others but also affect their own perceptions of aging and self-worth.

Real-life example: Mary, a vibrant 75-year-old, joins a local community group for social activities and outings. Despite her enthusiasm and active participation, she notices that most of the group's activities cater to younger members, with little consideration for the interests or needs of older participants. Mary feels increasingly marginalized and disconnected from the group, ultimately leading her to withdraw and seek social interaction elsewhere. She feels the same way about the TV shows she is offered. 

Ageism about Ourselves

Addressing ageism requires a concerted effort at both individual and societal levels. As individuals, we can challenge ageist attitudes and behaviors in ourselves and others by actively promoting inclusivity, empathy, and respect for people of all ages. This means recognizing and valuing the unique contributions and perspectives that older individuals bring to the table, whether it's in the workplace, healthcare, or social settings.

At the societal level, combating ageism involves raising awareness about its harmful effects and advocating for policies and practices that promote equity and inclusion for older adults. This includes initiatives to combat age-based discrimination in employment, healthcare, housing, and other areas of society, as well as promoting positive representations of aging in media and popular culture.

Ultimately, by dismantling ageist stereotypes and fostering a culture of respect and appreciation for people of all ages, we can create a more inclusive and equitable society where individuals are valued for their contributions and humanity, rather than judged based on arbitrary factors like age.

For more on how to be free of this mindset, see who we are at the Senior Freedom Club. We live happy, healthy, and active lives and forget we have an "age".

Also, a great book to read...This Chair Rocks!  Wonderfully written and funny.

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